We rejoiced in 2015 when a long-awaited Supreme Court ruling passed, legalizing same-sex marriage in all 50 states. It was long overdue, and we have been celebrating by planning the most exquisite LGBTQ+ luxury weddings ever since.
Planning an LGBTQ+ wedding is not much different than planning a traditional wedding—unless you want it to be! You can enjoy the freedom and flexibility to make it your own. Here’s our guide to planning the perfect luxury LGBTQ+ wedding.
Love won in 2015, and now same-sex couples can share their union and get a marriage license in all 50 states. You might wonder if there are special requirements for same-sex couples to obtain a marriage license, and that depends on the county. Requirements may vary depending on where you live, so do your research ahead of time.
Visit your local county clerk’s office to see which forms and fees you’ll need. In general, a marriage license requires a nominal filing fee and ID. The marriage license is usually valid for 60-90 days, so most couples file it a few weeks before their wedding date.
Gay Marriage Requirements in D.C.:
In D.C., the requirements are the same for LGBTQ+ couples as for straight couples.
- Must be 18 years of age or 16 years old with parental consent
- Must have a valid ID (proof of age and address)
- Must present a completed D.C. marriage application
You do not need to be a resident of D.C. to get married here.
Selecting your venue is a moment you’ll never forget. When you find that special place to exchange vows, you’ll feel a calmness and joy sweep over you. You’ll be able to picture your big day there.
We have connections with dozens of luxury venues that welcome LGBTQ+ couples with open arms. As a black-owned event planning company, we work solely with vendors who place the same high priority on inclusivity as we do. There is something so beautiful about joining forces with like-minded businesses that welcome couples from all walks of life.
If you opt for our luxury wedding planning, we won’t require you to traipse all over town, trying out dozens of different venues. We’ll do the legwork for you and narrow it down to the most promising options for your style and preferences. You can then choose between the best of the best.
The Luxurious Little Details
When preparing for a big event, it can be easy to struggle with brain fog and anxiety as you try to juggle life, work, planning, and everything in between. Here are seven details to plan with your partner ahead of time to ensure you two love birds are on the same page.
What are you and your partner going to wear? What do you want your wedding party and guests to wear? You’ll want to discuss this with your partner to ensure you’re both happy with the result.
Sometimes opposites attract, so if you and your partner have completely different styles, you may want to come up with a happy medium on wedding attire, or you may rock your polarizing styles to create a truly “you” vibe.
Do you plan to have a wedding party? If so, will you opt for one large group or separate maids of honor or best men for each of you? This is another detail worth discussing with your partner in advance.
Walking Down the Aisle
Will only one of you walk down the aisle with an escort, such as a father or special person in your life? Will both walk down the aisle?
You may decide to stick with the traditional single-aisle format, or you may decide on a two-aisle design where both partners walk down the aisle with an escort, often common with same-sex couples. Some couples don’t have an aisle at all. What do you feel is best for your wedding ceremony?
How Traditional Do You Want it
Some traditional wedding staples include the bouquet/garter toss, the first dance, and cake-cutting. Your wedding gives you free rein to keep the traditions you love and toss the ones that don’t excite you. Feel free to incorporate your unique traditions to make the day more meaningful.
Let the fun begin! If you’re planning a bachelor or bachelorette party, talk with your partner about having a combined party or separate parties. Both have perks, so pick which option feels most comfortable for you and your partner. It’s wise to discuss this ahead of time, so there are no surprises.
To keep, swap, hyphenate, not hyphenate— that is a question only you and your partner can answer! Some couples take their partner’s last name, while others hyphenate their last name. Some brides or grooms may turn their maiden name into their middle name and their partner’s last name into their new last name. There is no right or wrong answer, and the choice is yours!
One of the most important aspects of a luxury wedding is the delicious food. What type of decadent deliciousness do you and your guests want to enjoy at your wedding? Do you want appetizers, a main course, and dessert? Do you want a formal dinner or a luxury buffet? Or something casual like a food truck? Whatever you choose, guests will remember, so choose wisely!
One of the best parts of planning an LGBTQ+ wedding is the freedom to create your masterpiece and make it spectacularly memorable and YOUnique. It’s the perfect opportunity to incorporate your traditions and create new ones to carry into your marriage.
While planning can be stressful, don’t forget that the day is all about celebrating, having fun, and basking in love between you and your partner. At Andrew Roby Events, inclusivity is always a priority, and we focus heavily on making the experience comfortable, peaceful, and joyful for you.
We offer traditional and luxury wedding planning in D.C., Dallas, or Los Angeles. We’re ready and waiting to help you create the wedding event of your dreams.